Sunday, February 28, 2016

You Have a Choice

It was a year ago today that I almost got into a pretty bad car accident. I was going into a roundabout and got distracted by the car in front of me, I started to enter the roundabout and then slammed my brakes. A red car when racing by in front of me, and I was momentarily shocked at where this car came from. I still don't know why I didn't look closely before going into a roundabout. I was very mad and upset with myself, and I eventually started thinking of the root cause of the problem.

  1. Why did I almost get into a car accident? I was distracted by work. 
  2. Why was I distracted by work? I hated my job.
  3. Why did I hate my job? My boss and his assistant were intimidating me/bullying me. 
  4. Why was I in a job where I was being intimidated/bullied? I didn't think I had a choice in leaving.
  5. Why didn't I think I had a choice? I would have had to pay back $17,000 in relocation expenses and was willing to stick out my job a year before quitting. 
I acknowledge I would have been at fault had I gotten into a wreck. As far as I know, it could have been a pretty bad wreck and I could have been T-boned. People are supposed to slow down in roundabouts, but the red car was probably going 30 mph in the roundabout, and had I been T-boned, it definitely would have caused some damage. I'm happy nothing happened, but it was a huge wake up call for me to get out of my job.

The biggest thing I've been stressing to my friends is to interview a potential employer as much as they're interviewing you. I've also been telling my friends to not buy a house, unless you know you want to be somewhere for 5 years. This is a big reason why I'm working on being a minimalist. I want to have the option to be flexible on where I live, and I don't want to be tied down anymore. My employer doesn't choose my happiness, and if I need to move/leave a job in the future, I'm going to. 

If you're still here reading, I say thanks. I encourage you to evaluate your work life and to make sure work is not weighing you down. If you're able to separate work life from personal life, congratulations, that is a skill I did not have. I also want to say that YOU have a choice in what happens to your life. I didn't think I had a choice, and was stuck in the cycle of being bullied and intimidated at work, and I should have just walked away and/or reported it. I didn't think I had a choice, but I did. 



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